Ever since a German researcher named Grafenberg identified the elusive erogenous zone back in the 1940s, the G-spot has been a hot topic among sex scientists—mainly because so many aren’t sure the G-spot is a real thing.
Don’t beat yourself up if you’re having problems finding your girl’s G-spot—chances are, she’s still searching for it, too.
A 2012 research review on G-spots came to the following, inconclusive conclusion: There’s not much proof that each and every woman has a G-spot, but “reliable reports” say there is a specific area inside the vagina that, when stimulated, may help some women reach orgasm.
Based on that review study, it’s probably better to think of the G-spot like it’s a sex position or a fetish: Some women go crazy for it, while others, not so much
How to Begin
First and foremost, make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are trimmed, because you’re going to be putting them in a very sensitive place.
Due to its tucked-away location, fingers are usually most effective at finding and stimulating the G-spot.
Like anything else related to sex, foreplay is very much impotatnt.
How to Find Her G-Spot
While it’s not clear if every woman gets off on G-spot stimulation, there’s little debate about where the controversial pleasure point can be found.
As explained by the experts it is said to be about 2 inches inside of the vagina, on the top side of the vaginal wall.
If your partner’s on her back and you insert a finger with your palm facing the ceiling, the “top side” of her vagina is the spot you’ll touch by curling your finger in a come-hither motion, almost like you’re trying to stroke her belly button from the inside.
What You Need to Do
Just as you wouldn’t jam your whole penis into her in a single movement, you should work your finger in a little bit at a time, slowly and softly.
Once she seems comfortable with your finger inside of her, use that same curling motion to softly massage the top of her vagina with the pad of your finger.
Be sure to watch and listen to your partner to ensure she’s enjoying herself, and stroke the G-spot in a rhythmic motion, trying different speeds and pressure amounts until you’ve found the one she most enjoys.
Soft pressure on the outside can help stimulate her G-spot even more.